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Seven Tips For Effective Parenting |
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The birth of a child changes lives forever. Becoming a parent brings with it several concerns and responsibilities. And, the central concern becomes "effective parenting." While parenting comes naturally to most, the many concerns of the modern world and it's fast paced existence make parenting a many tiered concern.
Parenting in simple terms just means loving your child, and teaching him to be a rounded and caring individual. Children need understanding, love, as well as a certain guiding hand which will help them make appropriate choices.
The keys to effective parenting are:
- Understand that you child is an individual with
the ability to think. Never try and mold a child into
what you imagine to be the right mold for him or her.
Every child has certain inborn talents and must be
given the opportunity to discover their own identity
and personality.
- Instill in the child a sense of self confidence
and trust in you. They must know that at any time
they can turn to you for advice and help. Help the
child discover themselves, their inner talents and
strengths. Keep all avenues of conversation open.
Listen to what a child has to say. You will be surprised
at how much children know today.
- Nurture your child's talents and give them the space
and opportunity to fly with the wind and touch the
skies. Never try and push a child into a study course
or profession they are not comfortable with let the
child find its own level.
- Reassure the child that he has your unconditional
love and support. Your love is not a measure of the
child's behavior, performance, or achievements.
- Freedom needs limits. Being understanding and lenient
does not mean running wild. Children need rules to
work under as well as a pre-determined schedule. This
instills in them a feeling of security as well as
discipline. So, a parent must wield the carrot and
stick but subtly not like a military general or great
dictator.
- The adage, spare the rod and spoil the child is
valid. What a parent needs to do is use positive methods
to discipline a child. Never beat or abuse a child
but devise a way in which a child looses certain privileges
when he or she behaves badly or oversteps limits.
Decide with the child whether it should be TV privileges,
or pizza treats, or movies, or visits to the mall.
Many parents find "grounded" works well.
- Missing the deadline and asking for an extension.
This means paying late penalties as well as interest.
In case a personal problem prevents filing in April
you need to submit form 4868 by the April deadline
to get an extension.
- Create bonds that a strong and will stand the vicissitudes
of time. Be warm, share interests, spend time together,
establish routines and rituals, be vigilant and pick
up clues when a child is upset or angry. Keep lines
of communication open, a child must be able to come
and share is troubles and problems with you without
hesitation.
Being a parent is not about providing well, giving pocket
money, or satisfying material needs. It is about creating
love, understanding, and trust. Bonds that are formed
in the early years of life will last a life time of good
times and bad. It is important for parents to extend a
warm hand of friendship.
About the Author: Paul Wilson is a freelance writer for Parenting Discussion, the premier REVENUE SHARING discussion forum for Parenting Forum including topics on general parenting, best parenting moments, motherhood, fatherhood, parenting advice and more. He also freelances for the premier Submit Article Services
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